中国人面子问题探究（一）.doc

中国人面子问题探究 2021年4月20日12：18：15 署名jacky 一 inchina，therearemanyunspokenrules.dosanddontsandwhatyoudontknowcouldevencausesomeoneelsetoloseface.itbringsfeelingsofpride，embarrassment，humiliation，flatteryandhumility. thankfully，thereareanswers.luoweijiaisachineselanguageandcultureteacheratbeijinghutongschool.inherclass，sheteachesforeignersthiscomplexcomponentofchineseculture.”facestandsforreputationandpositionofaperson.also，ithinkitsveryimportantinchineseculture.”itsoundssimpleenough.afterall，wetrytomaintainasenseofdignityinthewest，too，dontwe。noonewantstobehumiliated.butitgoesmuchdeeperthanthatinchina.fabriziofranciosifromrome，italyhasbeenlivinghereforayearandisstudyingchineseatbeijinghutongschool.hesaysthatthesocialrulesinitalianculturearemoreobvious，sohesmorecautioushere.”china，itsreallynotthesame.therulesarestricter，soyouhavetocarefullyfollowsomebasicchinesetraditions.”inthewest，culturally，wemakefunofourselvesandmaybeevenotherpeople.itsevenoktoridiculeourselveslightlyinfrontofagroup.thisisnotsomuchthecaseinchina.infact，itspossibletolosefaceonyourownentirelybyaccident.beijingerliangchenghaslivedintheusaformanyyearsandjustreturnedforuniversityhere.herchinesefriendscantunderstandwhywesternerswouldlosefaceonpurpose.”say，imamerican，andyouresittingnexttoachinesefriendandthenyouhearsomethingonthenewsforexampleaboutamericansdoingsomethingthat，inyouropinion，isreallystupid.buttothem，theydontknowanythingaboutthesituation.andyousay，ohlookatus，americaisjustgoingdownthedrain.hewouldmaybelookatyouinaverystrangeway，youdonttalkaboutthis，andyoudonttalkaboutyourowncountryinchina.youdontjokelikethis.”confrontingpeopleisalsoadelicatematter.michaelcainfromnorthcarolinaarrivedtwoyearsagotostudychineselanguageandculture.backthen，hisunderstandingwasthat”face”wassomewhatrelatedtoego.throughstudyingbusinesspracticesinchina，heslearnedthatgoodbusinesshastorespecttheseculturalnorms.”iwouldsaythatbeingawesterner，wearemuchmoredirect.andinchina，directnesscanactuallyleadtoalossoffaceforthelocals.ifyoureaforeignmanagerandyouhave 2021年4月20日12：18：15 署名jackylocalworkers，especiallyinfrontofsomeoneelse，especiallybeingsodirect，like，whyareyoulate。whydontyoudoitinthismanner。，cancausealossoffaceforachineseperson，becauseitsliketakingawaytheirstandinginfrontoftheirpeers.”intheworkplace，luoweijiaexplainsthatthisisbecausewhatwesternersconsidergroupfeedbackcouldbeviewedaspubliccriticisminchina.likewise，peoplewhowanttosavefacemaynotliketoadmitmistakes.oneofluosstudentsisconstantlyfrustratedbythisissue.”shesalreadybeenworkinghereforthreeyearsandcannormallygetusedtoeverything，soshecangetalongverywellwithhercolleagues.butthereisoneproblemshecantstandfor.theycanneveradmittheymadeamistake，theypretendlikenothinghappened.so，thatreallyannoysher.”sometimesnotunderstandingtherulesmaycauseotherstolosefaceatdinnersandoutings.unfortunately，ascainpointsout，sometimesitshardtoknowexactlyhowtobehave.”iwouldsaythativehadtheexperienceofgoingouttodinnerwithachineseperson，andtheyoffertopay，andyousay，no，no，butthentheyinsist.andreally，youresupposedtopay，butitkindofgetslostinwhoshouldbegivingfacetotheotherone.andivecausedthosesituationstohappen，wheniletthempaywhenishouldhavepaidtogivethemface.andivedefinitelytakensomeonetoaplacethinkingitsthecoolthingtodowhenitwouldhavebeenbettertotakethemtoahongkongrestaurantthatcostsaload.”therearealsorulesintheclassroom.byaccident，foreignersquestioningateachercancausehimorhertolosefaceunintentionally.luoteachesasmallgroupofforeignersandaddsthatsheisstilllearningtograspthisculturaldifference.”inchina，wereally，really，respectchineseteachers，likewheniwasinhighschooloruniversity，wednevertellmyteacher，idonttrustyouoridontthinkyouareright;idontagreewithyou.butsometimes，inmyclass，wemaybetalkaboutsomeproblemandtheycorrectmyopinionorcorrectmymistake.so，ifeelalittlebithumiliatedinfrontofmyclass.butithinkitsverynormalforforeignerstosay，youarewrong，ihaveadifferentopinion.butforchinese，itsalittlebitweird，soitsbettertobecarefulaboutthat.”thisdoesntmeanyouhavetowalkaroundscaredtooffendthechinesepeopleallthetime.afterall，luosaysthatforeignersarentexpectedtoknowtheserulesallthetime.thankfully，mostchinesepeoplewillbemuchmoreforgivingeveniftheyareabitconfusedbyyouractions.itsadifferentculture.so，manythingsgetlostintranslation.or，inthiscase，lostinface.forcri，imandreahunt. 2021年4月20日12：18：15 署名jackyunspoken，nspuknadj.无言的；未说出口的；不言而喻的 unspoken：未说出口的|欲言又止|不能说dosdu：zn.行为规范；（英）欢庆会；应该做的事（do的复数形式）dos：什么 ；dontsn.不该做的事 donts：不应该做的|不可做 embarrassmentimbærsmntn.窘迫，难堪；使人为难的人或事物；拮据 embarrassment：尴尬|困窘|障碍 humiliationhju：，milieinn.丢脸，耻辱；蒙羞；谦卑 humiliation：羞辱|丢脸|蒙耻humiliatedv.屈辱（humiliatehju：milieit的过去式）；使丢脸，使蒙羞adj.羞辱的 humiliated：感到受侮辱|乡村蓝调 flatteryflætrin.奉承；谄媚；恭维话 flattery：灌迷汤|谄媚|奉承humilityhju：milti n.谦卑，谦逊 humility：谦卑|谦逊|谦虚componentkmpunntn.成分；组件；电子元件 adj.组成的，构成的 component：组件|成分|零件 maintainmeinteinvt.维持；继续；维修；主张；供养 maintain：保持|维修|维护保 养供给 stricter adj.strict的变形（strictstrikt） stricter：更加严密 culturallykltrliadv.从文化角度，文化意义上；在人文学方面 culturally：文化意义 上 ridiculeridikju：ln.嘲笑；笑柄；愚弄 vt.嘲笑；嘲弄；愚弄 ridicule：荒谎无稽|嘲笑|愚弄 draindreinn.排水；下水道，排水管；消耗 vt.喝光，耗尽；使流出；排掉水 vi.排水；流干 drain：排水|漏极|排水管 confronting v.面对；对抗（confront的ing形式）；对立 confronting：对照 delicatedelikt adj.微妙的；精美的，雅致的；柔和的；易碎的；纤弱的；清淡可口的 delicate：精致的|精美的|细软的 directnessdirektnis，dai- n.直接；率直；笔直 directness：笔直|直接性 feedbackfi：dbæk n.反馈；成果，资料；回复 feedback：意见反馈|反馈|回输criticismkriti，sizmn.批评；考证；苛求 criticism：评论|评鉴|批判主义likewiselaikwaiz adv.同样地；也 likewise：也|同样地|同样的issueiju：，isju：n.问题；流出；期号；发行物 vt.发行，发布；发给；放出，排出vi.发行；流出；造成结果；传下 kindof（副词性短语）有点儿；有几分；一种|稍微 unintentionally，nintennliadv.无意地；非故意地；非存心地 第 9 页 共 9 页免责声明：图文来源于网络搜集，版权归原作者所以若侵犯了您的合法权益，请作者与本上传人联系，我们将及时更正删除。