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1、10分钟演讲稿,TED When I was20, I had my very first psychotherapy client.At that time, I was a volunteer in the psychological consultation room of our school.She was a 21-year-old girl named Alex.Alex walked into the room and told me she was there to talk about guy problems.when I heard this, I was so rel

2、ieved.I got a twentysomething who wanted to talk about boys.This I thought I could handle.But I didnt handle it.With the funny stories that Alex would bring, it was easy for me just to nod my head while we kicked the can down the road.Thirtys the new 20, Alex would say, and as far as I could tell, s

3、he was right.Work happened later, marriage happened later, kids happened later, even death happened later.Twentysomethings like Alex and I had nothing but time.But before long, my supervisor pushed me to push Alex about her life.I pushed back.I said, Sure, shes dating down, but its not like shes goi

4、ng to marry the guy.And then my supervisor said, Not yet, but she might marry the next one.Thats what we call an Aha! moment.That was the moment I realized, 30 is not the new 20.Yes, people settle down later than they used to, but that didnt make Alexs 20s a developmental downtime.That made Alexs 20

5、s a developmental sweet spot, and we were sitting there blowing it.That was when I realized that this sort of neglect was a real problem, and it had real consequences, not just for Alex and her love life but for the careers and the families and the futures of twentysomethings everywhere.Were talking

6、 about 15 percent of the population, or 100 percent if you consider that no ones getting through adulthood without going through their 20s first.I focus on twentysomethings because I believe that every single one of those twentysomethings deserves to know that claiming your 20s is one of the simples

7、t, yet most transformativethings you can do for work, for love, for your happine, maybe even for the world.This is not my opinion.These are the facts.We know that 80 percent of lifes most defining moments take place by age 35.That means that eight out of 10 of the decisions and experiences and Aha!

8、moments that make your life what it is will have happened by your mid-30s.We know that the first 10 years of a career has an exponential impact on how much money youre going to earn.We know that the brain caps off its second and last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires itself for adulthood, which

9、 means whatever it is you want to change about yourself, now is the time to change it.Your 20s are the time to educate yourself about your body and your options.Its a time when your ordinary, day-to-day life has an inordinate impact on who you will become.Leonard Bernstein said that to achieve great

10、 things, you need a plan and not quite enough time.So what do you think happens when you pat a twentysomething on the head and you say, You have 10 extra years to start your life? Nothing happens.You have robbed that person of his urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens.And then every d

11、ay, smart, interesting twentysomethings like yousay things like this: I know my boyfriends no good for me, but this relationship doesnt count.Im just killing time. Or they say, Everybody says as long as I get started on a career by the time Im 30, Ill be fine.But then it starts to sound like this: M

12、y 20s are almost over, and I have nothing to show for myself.I had a better rsum the day after I graduated from college.And then it starts to sound like this: Dating in my 20s was like musical chairs.Everybody was running around and having fun, but then sometime around 30 it was like the music turne

13、d off and everybody started sitting down.I didnt want to be the only one left standing up, so sometimes I think I married my husband because he was the closest chair to me at 30. now that sounds a little flip, but make no mistake, the stakes are very high. When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, the

14、re is enormous thirtysomething preure to jump-start a career, pick a city, partner up, and have one or two kids in a much shorter period of time.The midlife crisis isnt buying a car.Its realizing you cant have that career you now want.Its realizing you cant have that child you now want, or you cant

15、give your child a sibling.Too many thirtysomethings and fortysomethings look at themselvesand say about their 20s, What was I doing? What was I thinking? I want to change what twentysomethings are doing and thinking.So there are three things that every twentysomething, male or female, deserves to he

16、ar.First,forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital.By get identity capital, I mean do something that adds value to who you are.Do something thats an investment in who you might want to be next.I didnt know the future of your career, and no one knows the future, but I do kn

17、ow this: Identity capital begets identity capital.So now is the time for that cro-country job, that internship, that startup you want to try.Im not discounting twentysomething exploration here, but I am discounting exploration thats not supposed to count, which, by the way, is not exploration.Thats

18、procrastination.Second, best friends are great for giving rides to the airport, but twentysomethings who huddle together with like-minded peers limit who they know, what they know, how they think, how they speak, and where they work.That new piece of capital, that new person to date almost always co

19、mes from outside the inner circle.New things come from what are called our weak ties, our friends of friends of friends.So yes, half of twentysomethings are under-employed.But half arent, and weak ties are how you get yourself into that group.Last but not least, you cant pick your family, but you ca

20、n pick your friends.Now this was true for growing up, but as a twentysomething, soon you would pick your family when you partnered with someone and created a family of you own.the time to start picking your family is now.Now you may be thinking that 30 is actually a better time to settle down than 2

21、0, or even 25, and I agree with you.But grabbing whoever youre living with or dating with when everyone starts walking down the aisle is not progre.The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one, and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work.Picking your family is

22、 about consciously choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you.Twentysomethings are like airplanes just leaving LAX, a slight change in course is the difference between landing in Alaska or Fiji.Likewise, at 21 or 25 or even

23、29, one good conversation, one good break have an enormous effect acro years and even generations to come.So heres an idea worth spreading to every twentysomething you know.Thirty is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family.Dont be defi

24、ned by what you didnt know or didnt do.Youre deciding your life right now. Thank you. 10分钟演讲稿,TED 10分钟演讲稿 演讲稿10分钟 10分钟演讲稿 10分钟演讲稿 英语演讲稿3分钟TED TED演讲稿三分钟 10分钟励志演讲稿 10分钟竞聘演讲稿 环保演讲稿10分钟 本文来源：网络收集与整理，如有侵权，请联系作者删除，谢谢！第9页 共9页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页