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1、无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布MenarefromMars,WomenarefromVenus男人来自火星，女人来自金星Talkaboutmenandwomen无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布很少人能够真正随着爱情成长，但不容否认，确实有人能够做到。只有当男人和女人能够尊重和接受彼此的不同，爱情才有机会繁盛。Veryfewpeople,indeed,areabletogrowinlove.Yet,itdoeshappen.Whenmenandwomenareabletorespectandaccepttheirdifferencesthenlovehasachancetoblosso

2、m.无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布RememberingOurDifferences1.女人对男人最常见的抱怨是，男人不肯倾听。Themostfrequentlyexpressedcomplaintwomenhaveaboutmenisthatmendontlisten.2.男人对女人最常见的抱怨，是女人总是企图要改变他们。Themostfrequentlyexpressedcomplaintmenhaveaboutwomenisthatwomenarealwaystryingtochangethem.原因在于二者的价值观不同：原因在于二者的价值观不同：mensandwomensvalu

3、esareInherentlydifferent无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布AboutMen1.他们对“物体”和“事情”比较有兴趣，对人们与感觉比较没兴趣。Themenaremoreinterestedinobjectsandthingsratherthanpeopleandfeelings.2.完成目标对男人很重要因为那是他证明能力与自我满足的方法Achievinggoalsisveryimportanttoamanitisawayforhimtoprovehiscompetenceandthusfeelgoodabouthimself.whymenresistsomuchbeing

4、correctedorbeingtoldwhattodo.Toofferamanadviceistopresumethathedoesntknowwhattodoorthathecantdoitonhisown.However,ifhetrulydoesneedhelp,thenitisasignofwisdomtogetit.无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布AboutWomen1.女人重视爱、沟通、美与关系。沟通对她们最重要。分享个人感觉比完成目标和成功更重要。Womenvaluelove,communication,beauty,andrelationships.Communicati

5、onisofprimaryimportance.Tosharetheirpersonalfeelingsismuchmoreimportantthanachievinggoalsandsuccess.2.因为女人不认为证明能力是件多了不起的事，所以她们认为提供帮助并非唐突，请求帮助也不算能力不足。provingonescompetenceisnotasimportanttoaVenusian,offeringhelpisnotoffensive,andneedinghelpisnotasignofweakness.3.尊敬别人的方法是耐心倾听，感同身受地了解对方的感觉Awayofhonorin

6、gothersistolistenpatientlywithempathy,seekingtrulytounderstandtheothersfeelings.无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布WomenGiveupgivingadviceMenLearningtolistenMengototheirCavesandWomenTalkMEN:Afterthemenlearnedhowtolistentheymadeamostamazingdiscovery.Theybegantorealizethatlisteningtoawomantalkaboutproblemscouldactuall

7、yhelpthemcomeoutoftheirirritationinthesamewayaswatchingthenewsonTVorreadinganewspaper.Women:Whenthemenweregoingintotheircaves,themenalsodidnottakeitpersonally.theyfinallyunderstoodthatamengoingintohiscavewasnotasignthathedidntloveherasmuch.无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布Whendomenandwomenfeelthemselvestoloveandto

8、beloved?当男人觉得被需要时，他会被激发，充满动力当女人觉得受珍爱时，她会被鼓舞，充满动力。Men:Men:Nottobeneededisaslowdeathforaman.Itisdifficulttobemotivatedwhenheisnotneeded.Women:Women:Sheneedstofeelsheisnotalone.Sheneedstofeellovedandcherished.无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布WhatMenNeedWhatWomenNeedTrustCaringAcceptanceUnderstandingAppreciationRespec

9、tAdmirationDevotionApprovalValidationEncouragementReassurance无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布Thankyou!It is never too late to increase the love in your life.If you want to have more fulfilling relationships with the opposite sex,this template is for you.May you always grow in wisdom and in love.Iwishinthefuturefe

10、wpeoplewillgetdivorcedandmorepeoplewillgetmarried.Whatsmore,thechildrenofthesemarriedpeoplewillobtainabetterlife.无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布AboutloveletterWhyweneedtowriteloveletter?LoveletterI.WriteaLoveLetterexpressingyourfeelingsofanger,sadness,fear,regret,andlove.2.WriteaResponseletterexpressingwhatyouwa

11、nttohearfromyourpartner.3.ShareyourLoveLetterandResponseLetterwithyourpartner.无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布一、写一封表达你的气愤、伤心、害怕、后悔和爱的感觉的情书。二、写一封表达你想听听另一半说什么的回应信。三、和另一半分享你的情书和回应信。无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布WhywewriteloveletterThedifferentwaysmenandwomenhidefeelingsarediscussedalongwiththeimportanceofsharingfeelings.TheLove

12、LetterTechniqueisrecommendedforexpressingnegativefeelingstoyourpartner,asawayoffindinggreaterloveandforgiveness.无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布Afterwritingyourletteryoumaynolongerfeelaneedtotalk.Insteadyoucouldbecomeinspiredtodosomethinglovingforyourpartner.Whetheryousharethefeelingsinyourletteroryoujustwriteale

13、ttertofeelbetter,writing down your feelingsisanimportanttool.无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布TalkaboutloveletterSTEPI:writingALOVELETTER(写情书)无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布HerearesomeguidelinesforwritingabasicLoveLetter:I.Addressthelettertoyourpartner.Pretendthatheorsheislisteningtoyouwithloveandunderstanding.2.Startwithanger

14、,thensadness,thenfear,thenregret,andthenlove.Includeallfivesectionsineachletter.3.Writeafewsentencesabouteachfeeling;keepeachsectionapproximatelythesamelength.Speakinsimpleterms.4.Aftereachsection,pauseandnoticethenextfeelingcomingup.Writeaboutthatfeeling.5.Donotstopyourletteruntilyougettothelove.Be

15、patientandwaitforthelovetocomeout.6.Signyournameattheend.Takeafewmomentstothinkaboutwhatyouneedorwant.WriteitinaP.S.1.读情书给另一半听，假设他正以爱和了解听你读信。2.每封信包括五种感觉，先是气愤，再来是伤心、害怕、后悔，最后是爱。3.用一些简单明了的句子描述每种感觉，保持五种感觉的句子长度相等。4.每写完一种感觉，停一下，让下一个感觉涌上，然后写下那感觉。5.爱的感觉没出来以前不要停止写信，耐心地等待爱出现。6.在信末署名。再想想你需要什么，写入附注。无无忧忧PPTPPT整理

16、整理发发布布Herearesometemplatestosimplifywritingyourletters（模板）I.ForAngerIDontlikeit.Ifeelfrustrated.Iamangrythat.Ifeelannoyed.Iwant.1.表达气愤我不喜欢我觉得沮丧我气我觉得困扰我要无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布2.ForSadnessIfeeldisappointed.Iamsadthat.Ifeelhurt.Iwanted.Iwant.2.表达伤心我感到失望令我伤心我觉得受到伤害我要无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布3.ForFearIworried.Iamaf

17、raid.Ifeelscared.Idonotwant.Ineed.Iwant.3.表达害怕我烦恼我害怕我惶恐我不要我要4.ForRegretIFeelembarrassed.Iamsorry.Ifeelashamed.Ididntwant.Iwant.4.表达后悔我感到害羞我很抱歉令我羞愧我不要我要无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布5.ForLoveILoveIwant.Iunderstand.Iforgive.Iappreciate.Ithankyoufor.Iknow.5.表达爱我爱我要我了解我原谅我感激我谢谢你我知道无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布STEP2:writingARE

18、SPONSELETTER(写回应信)无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布写下希望从对方那里得到的回应。writingaResponseLetteristhesecondstepintheLoveLetterTechnique.Onceyouhaveexpressedbothyournegativeandpositivefeelings,takinganadditionalthreetofiveminutestowriteaResponseLettercanbeahealingprocess.In this letter,you will write the kind of response y

19、ou would like to have from your partner.无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布Itworkslikethis.ImaginethatyourpartnerisabletorespondlovinglytoyourhurtfeelingstheonesyouexpressedinyourLoveLetter.Write a short letter to yourself pretending it is your partner writing to you.Includeallthethingsyouwouldliketohearfromyourpart

20、neraboutthehurtsyouhaveexpressed.无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布方法是，想像你的伴侣非常有爱心地回应你在情书中表达的受伤的感觉。写一封信给自己，假装那是对方的回应信。信中包含所有你希望从配偶口中听来的关于你所表达的伤害的事。无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布Thefollowingleadinginphrasescangetyoustarted:Thankyoufor.Iunderstand.Iamsorry.Youdeserve.Iwant.Ilove.谢谢你我了解抱歉我要我爱无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布STEP3SHARINGYOURLOVE

21、LETTERANDRESPONSELETTER（分享你的情书和回应信）无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布Sharingyourlettersisimportantforthefollowingreasons:Itgivesyourpartneranopportunitytosupportyou.Itallowsyoutogettheunderstandingyouneed.Itgivesyourpartnernecessaryfeedbackinalovingandrespectfulway.Itmotivateschangeinarelationship.Itcreatesintimacy

22、andpassion.Itteachesyourpartnerwhatisimportanttoyouandhowsuccessfullytosupportyou.Ithelpscouplestostarttalkingagainwhencommunicationbreaksdown.Itteachesushowtohearnegativefeelingsinasafeway.无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布可给你伴侣支持你的机会。允许你获得自己需要的支持。以爱与尊重的方式给与伴侣必要的回馈。可促进关系的改善。可教导你的伴侣知道什么对你最重要，也可教导他如何成功的支持你。沟通破裂时，可帮助

23、伴侣再交谈。可教导我们如何以安全的方式来听消极的感觉。无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布写与分享情书的意图写与分享情书的意图StatementofIntentforwritingandSharingaLoveLetter我写这封信是为了发现我的积极感觉和给你应得的爱，在这过程里，我分享了令我沮丧的消极感觉。Ihavewrittenthisletterinordertofindmypositivefeelingsandtogiveyoutheloveyoudeserve.AspartofthatprocessIamsharingwithyoumynegativefeelings,whichar

24、eholdingmeback.你的了解将帮助我敞开心灵赶走消极感觉。我相信你在乎，你会尽力回应我的感觉。我感激你愿意倾听我、支持我。Yourunderstandingwillhelpmetoopenupandletgoofmynegativefeelings.Itrustthatyoudocareandthatyouwillrespondtomyfeelingsofthebestwayyoucan.Iappreciateyourwillingnesstolistenandsupportme.另外，我希望这封信能帮助你了解我的需求和愿望。InadditionIhopethatthisletter

25、willassistyouinunderstandingmywants,needs,andwishes.无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布听情书的意图（听情书的意图（Thepartnerwhoishearingtheletterneedstolisteninthespiritofthefollowingstatementofintent.）StatementofIntentforHearingaLoveLetter我保证尽力了解你的感觉，接受我们的差异，感激你尽力传达你的感觉和爱。Ipromisetodomybesttounderstandthevalidityofyourfeelings,

26、toacceptourdifferences,torespectyourneedsasIdomyown,andtoappreciatethatyouaredoingyourbesttocommunicateyourfeelingsandlove.我保证会倾听你的感觉，不纠正也不否认。我保证接受你，不试着改变你。Ipromisetolistenandnotcorrectordenyyourfeelings.Ipromisetoacceptyouandnottrytochangeyou.我乐意倾听你的感觉，因为我相信我们可以重修旧好。Iamwillingtolistentoyourfeelings

27、becauseIdocareandItrustthatwecanworkthisout.这些精神意图可帮助你记住尊重伴侣的感觉，以爱且安全的方式回应。刚开始练习情书技巧时，若能将这两种意图读出来，写情书会比较安全。ThefirstfewtimesyoupracticetheLoveLetterTechniqueitwillbemuchsaferifyouactuallyreadthesestatementsoutloud.Thesestatementsofintentwillhelpyouremembertorespectyourpartnersfeelingsandrespondinaloving,safeway.无无忧忧PPTPPT整理整理发发布布Thankyou！