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1、为什么我们要撒谎 罗伯特·费尔德曼是马萨诸塞高校的一位心理学教授。接下来，我给大家打算了为什么我们要撒谎,欢迎大家参考与借鉴。 为什么我们要撒谎 A professor of psychology at the University of Massachusetts, Robert Feldman has spent most of his career studying the role deception plays in human relationships. His most recent book, The Liar in Your Life: How Lies Wo

2、rk and What They Tell Us About Ourselves, lays out in stark terms just how prevalent lying has become. He talked to TIME about why we all need a dose of honesty. What are the main findings of your research? Not only do we lie frequently, but we lie without even thinking about it. People lie while th

3、ey are getting acquainted an average of three times in a 10-minute period. Participants in my studies actually are not aware that they are lying that much until they watch videos of their interactions. One of the reasons people get away with so much lying, your research suggests, is that we are all

4、essentially dupes. Why do we believe so many lies? This is what I call the liar's advantage. We are not very good at detecting deception in other people. When we are trying to detect honesty, we look at the wrong kinds of nonverbal behaviors, and we misinterpret them. The problem is that there i

5、s no direct correlation between someone's nonverbal behavior and their honesty. "Shiftiness" could also be the result of being nervous, angry, distracted or sad. Even trained interrogators aren't able to detect deception at high rates. You might as well flip a coin to determine if

6、someone is being honest. What's more, a lot of the time, we don't want to detect lies in other people. We are unwilling to put forward the cognitive effort to suspect the veracity of statements, and we aren't motivated to question people when they tell us things we want to hear. When we

7、ask someone, "How are you doing?" and they say, "Fine," we really don't want to know what their aches and pains are. So we take "Fine" at face value. Do you feel deception is a particularly relevant topic to our society? We are living in a time and culture in which

8、it's easier to lie than it has been in the past. The message that pervades society is that it's O.K. to lie — you can get away with it. One of the things I found in my research is that when you confront people with their lies, they very rarely display remorse. Lying is not seen as bein

9、g morally reprehensible in any strong way. You can make the assumption that because it often makes social interactions go more smoothly, lying is O.K. But there is a cost to even seemingly benign lies. If people are always telling you that you look terrific and you did a great job on that presentati

10、on, there's no way to have an accurate understanding of yourself. Lies put a smudge on an interaction, and if it's easy to lie to people in minor ways, it becomes easier to lie in bigger ways. You say in the book that recent DNA evidence suggests that 10% of people have fathers other than th

11、e men they believe conceived them. So is lying pretty widespread in our intimate lives too? Research shows we lie less to people that we are close to. But when we do, they tend to be the bigger types of lies. And the fallout is greater if the deception is discovered. You show how lying is a social s

12、kill. Does that mean it's part of an evolutionary legacy? I don't think lying is genetically programmed. We learn to lie. We teach our kids to be effective liars by modeling deceitful behavior. In your book, you offer a way to cut back on lies. What's the "AHA!" remedy? AHA! st

13、ands for active honesty assessment. We need to be aware of the possibility that people are lying to us, and we need to demand honesty in other people. Otherwise we will get a canned affirmation. At the same time, we have to demand honesty of ourselves. We have to be the kind of people who don't

14、tell white lies. We don't have to be cruel and totally blunt, but we have to convey information honestly. The paradox here is that if you are 100% honest and blunt, you will not be a popular person. Honesty is the best policy. But it's not a perfect policy. 扩展：社会各界职位一览 HUMAN RESOURCES(人力资源部分

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