不伤人的委婉拒绝方法.docx

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1、不伤人的委婉拒绝方法 有多少种方法在拒绝时而不得罪人呢?接下来，我给大家打算了不伤人的委婉拒绝方法,欢迎大家参考与借鉴。 不伤人的委婉拒绝方法 How many ways are there to say “No” without offending anyone's feeling? Well, there is “No, I can't”， “No, I don't have time” and “No, I don't want to”。 But the problem is that many of us try to avoid situations

2、that require us to say “No” to people. In almost every culture this little word is associated with rejection, failure, egoism and a lack of tact and empathy towards others. 有多少种方法在拒绝时而不得罪人呢? “不行，我没法做。” “不行，我没空。” “不行，我不想做。” 但是问题在于，我们许多人都想避开对别人说“不”。 几乎在每种文化中，“不”这个字都和拒绝、失败、利己主义、应变实力不足、缺少怜悯心联系起来。 I can

3、not recall how many times I have eaten burnt, undercooked, blandand poorly tasting dishes simply because I did not want to hurt the feelings of the person who had cooked them. Or the times when I bought something, I did not need, because I felt guilty leaving a shop empty-handed after spending 20 mi

4、nutes of the shop assistant's time. 我记不起来有多少次，我因为不想损害做饭的人的感情而吃掉糊了的、夹生的、平淡无味的或味道很差的食物。 我也记不起来有多少次我买了不须要的东西，只是因为我觉得花了导购员20分钟的时间两手空空离开会有一种负罪感。 How do you say “No” without offending anyone or feeling guilty afterwards? There is a great lesson to be learned from such approach to communication. 怎样说“不”

5、而不冒犯他人或之后自己没有负罪感?我们可以好好学习一下这种沟通的方法。 If just like me, you sometimes find it difficult to be direct about saying “No”， you can still be assertiveand express you disagreement in a more subtle, yet equally powerful way. The great thing about this method is that it gets your point across without making y

6、ou look bad, unprofessional, insensitive or uncaring. 假如你和我一样，有时你会发觉很难干脆说“不”，但是你依旧可以自信地用更加微妙、同样有效的方式表达异议。 这种方法的精妙之处在于，既能表达你的意思，又不会让人觉得你很差劲、不够职业、不够敏感或冷眼旁观。 Here are 7 Sneaky Ways to Say “No” without Offending Anyone 下面是7种拒绝而不损害他人的委婉方法： 1. “This sounds interesting, but I have too much on my plate at t

7、he moment.” “听起来很好玩，但是我现在有太多的事情要做。” When you start your disagreement with a compliment: “this sounds interesting”， it makes the person less defensive and gives you a validreason to decline “I have too much on my plate at the moment”。 假如你在表达异议时用赞美开头：“听起来很好玩”，会让人的心理防卫降低，这时你可以用正值理由来拒绝，如“我现在有太多的事情要做。” 2

8、. “I'm sorry but last time I did _, I had a negative experience.” “不好意思，上次我这样做时，我很难过 。” This is a life-saver for me every time I have to explain to people that I do not eat meat. Before I would say that I was a vegetarian, but for some reason this explanation has never worked on hospitable Itali

9、an grandmothers. They would try to feed me bacon, sausage and octopuses (yuck!) explaining it with “this is not meat” or “I just put a little in this dish”。 当我每次须要向他人说明我不吃肉时，这句话是我的救命稻草。在此之前，我通常说我是素食主义者，但是不知什么缘由，这种说明对好客的意大利奶奶们一点儿用也没有。她们总是让我吃培根、香肠和章鱼(真难吃!)，并向我说明“这不是肉”或“只放了一点点儿。” Now I simply say, “I&#

10、39;m sorry, but I can not eat meat. Last time I did, I had a terrible headache.” And it works like a charm, because no one wants to hurt you on purpose. 现在我只是说，“不好意思，我不能吃肉。上次我吃肉时，我头疼得很厉害。” 这特别管用，因为没人想有意损害你。 The focus here is not on what you want or do not want to do, but on your previous bad experie

11、nce. 这里要留意的是，关键不在于你想要什么或不想做什么，关键在于上次你这样做很难过。 3. “I'd love to do this, but _” “我想这么做，但是_”。 This is a great way of saying that you like the idea, you are willing to help, but you just can not do it at the moment. 这是一种很好的方式，说你喜爱这样做，你想去帮忙，但是你现在没法做。 Note: Just do not go into a lengthy justification o

12、f why you can not do it. 留意：不要进一步说明你为什么不能做。 First, it is not necessary. Time is a limited resource and when you say “yes” to one task, you have to say “no” to other opportunities that might be more important, urgent and beneficial to you at the moment. Second, offering a lengthy explanation makes yo

13、u sound guilty and unsure, so people might push further to see if you will agree. 首先，没有必要。每个人的时间都是有限的，当你对一项任务说“是”的时候，你就不得不对另外的一些机遇说“不”，尽管那些机遇现在对你来说可能是更加重要、紧急或有益的。另外，进一步说明会让你有种负罪感和不确定感，人们可以进一步劝告你看你是否会同意。 4. “I'm not the best person to help on this. Why don't you try X?” “我不是这项任务的最佳人选。要不你们看看X行

14、不行?” If you feel that you can not contribute much to the task, have no time or lack the resources, do not beat around the bush! Let the person know it up front. This, however, does not mean that you can not be helpful. You can still refer the person to a lead they can follow up on. 假如你觉得你不能在任务中投入太多精

15、力，没有那么多时间或缺少资源，那就不要旁敲侧击!让别人知道。这样，别人就不会觉得你没有帮忙。你可以举荐他人供他们参考。 扩展：可以用来形容老师的词汇 knowlegeable 渊博的 professional 专业的 rigorous 严谨的 logical 逻辑严密的 strick 严厉的 serious 肃穆的 old-fashioned 古板的 humorous 幽默的 energetic 活力四射的(下课了，老师说：再讲两分钟，就两分钟!) salivate uncontrollably 唾沫横飞(前排的童鞋每天都被洗头，也是挺不简单的) make lively gestures 载歌

16、载舞(光靠一张嘴说怎么够?) gentle 温柔的，文静的 elegant 优雅的 considerate 爱护的，考虑周到的(学科老师兼生活老师) friendly 友好的(老师也可以做挚友哟!) charming 迷人的 handsome 帅气的(女生最爱) stylish1 时髦的(据视察：该老师穿的衣服就没重复过!) innovative 创新的 creative 有创建力的 devoted 乐于奉献的 patient 耐性的 responsible 负责的 diligent 勤奋的本文来源：网络收集与整理，如有侵权，请联系作者删除，谢谢！第9页 共9页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页第 9 页 共 9 页