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1、T H EM O U N TA I NI SY O UT R A N S F O R M I N G S E L F-S A B OTAG E I N TO S E L F-M A S T E R YB R I A N N A W I E S TTHOUGHTCATALOG.COMNEW YORK LOS ANGELESCopyright 2020 Brianna Wiest.All rights reserved.Published by Thought Catalog Books,an imprint of the digital magazine Thought Catalog,whic

2、h is owned and operated by The Thought&Expression Company LLC,an independent media organization based in Brooklyn,New York and Los Angeles,California.This book was produced by Chris Lavergne and Noelle Beams and designed by KJ Parish.Visit us on the web at and .Made in the United States of America.I

3、SBN 978-1-949759-22-810 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1“Briannas book is a beautiful expression of healing.Her insights on self-sabotage,emotional intelligence,and deep transformation are invaluable.She understands that change begins with self,and her book is a gift to the collective.”DR.NICOLE LEPERA,“The Holist

4、ic Psychologist”“Im of the belief that in fulfilling our deepest potential,the greatest rewards come less from outcomes and more from who we must become in order to achieve what we know we are truly capable of.In this beautifully writ-ten and eye-opening book,Brianna Wiest inspires us to scale our o

5、wn mountains with powerful insights to help prepare you for the climb ahead.A must-read for those ready to do the inner work required to live a life of ful-fillment,wonder,and enjoyment!”SIMON ALEXANDER ONG,International Life Coach&Business Strategist“The Mountain Is You is a wake-up call that inspi

6、res hope in adversity.Youre invited to burn the rules of what youve been taught about yourself,as you awaken your inner hero and consciously choose a new narrative,and ultimately,create a life you deeply desire and deserve.Brianna provides an alchemy of pragmatic tools and deep soul shifts to build

7、the courage and clarity required to climb your own personal mountainand essentially,remember who you came here to be.The ultimate seek-ers guide for those brave enough to face their true north and take their power back.”JENNA BLACK,International Coach4 BRIANNA WIEST“Brianna Wiest is one of my favori

8、te writers.She com-bines life-changing wisdom with a unique eloquence that inspires readers to reclaim their power and change their lives for the better.The Mountain Is You is bound to help many people.”YUNG PUEBLO,Best-Selling Author of“Inward”“A revelation.The words wrote struck me so deep inside,

9、there were several moments that I had to pause from reading because my eyes filled with tears of realization and confirmation.”DAWN ZULUETA,Film-Television Actress,Host&Model“Brianna Wiests masterpiece is the perfect roadmap for understanding why we self-sabotage,when we do it,and how to stop doing

10、itfor good.”DR.STEVEN EISENBERG,Wellbeing&Connection Expert,Renowned Internist&Oncologist5THE MOUNTAIN IS YOUINTRODUCTION MUCH LIKE NATURE,life is very often working in our favor,even when it seems like we are only being faced with ad-versity,discomfort,and change.As forest fires are essential to th

11、e ecology of the environ-mentopening new seeds that require heat to sprout and rebuild a population of treesour minds also go through periodic episodes of positive disintegration,or a cleansing through which we release and renew our self-concept.We know that nature is most fertile and expansive at i

12、ts perim-eters,where climates meet,and we also transform when we reach our edge states,the points at which we are forced to step out of our comfort zones and regroup.1 When we can no longer rely on our coping mechanisms to help distract us from the problems in our lives,it can feel as though weve hi

13、t rock bottom.The reality is that this sort of awakening is what happens when we finally come to terms with the prob-lems that have existed for a long time.The breakdown is often just the tipping point that precedes the breakthrough,the moment a star implodes before it becomes a supernova.6 BRIANNA

14、WIESTJust as a mountain is formed when two sections of the ground are forced against one another,your mountain will arise out of coexisting but conflicting needs.Your moun-tain requires you to reconcile two parts of you:the con-scious and the unconscious,the part of you that is aware of what you wan

15、t and the part of you that is not aware of why you are still holding yourself back.Historically,mountains have been used as metaphors for spiritual awakenings,journeys of personal growth,and of course,insurmountable challenges that seem impos-sible to overcome when we are standing at the bottom.Like

16、 so much of nature,mountains provide us with an inherent wisdom about what it will take to rise up to our highest potential.The objective of being human is to grow.We see this re-flected back to us in every part of life.Species reproduce,DNA evolves to eliminate certain strands and develop new ones,

17、and the edges of the universe are expanding forever outward.Likewise,our ability to feel the depth and beauty of life is capable of expanding forever inward if we are willing to take our problems and see them as cat-alysts.Forests need fire to do this,volcanoes need implo-sions,stars need collapse,a

18、nd human beings often need to be faced with no other option but to change before they really do.To have a mountain in front of you does not mean you are fundamentally broken in some way.Everything in 7THE MOUNTAIN IS YOUnature is imperfect,and it is because of that imperfec-tion that growth is possi

19、ble.If everything existed in uniformity,the gravity that created the stars and planets and everything that we know would not exist.Without breaks,faults,and gaps,nothing could grow and nothing would become.2 The fact that you are imperfect is not a sign that you have failed;it is a sign that you are

20、 human,and more importantly,it is a sign that you still have more potential within you.Maybe you know what your mountain is.Maybe its ad-diction,weight,relationships,jobs,motivation,or money.Maybe you dont.Maybe its a vague sense of anxiety,low self-esteem,fear,or a general discontentment that seems

21、 to bleed out onto everything else.The mountain is often less a challenge in front of us as it is a problem within us,an unstable foundation that might not seem evident on the surface but is nonetheless shifting almost every part of our lives.Usually when we have a problem that is circumstantial,we

22、are facing the reality of life.When we have a problem that is chronic,we are facing the reality of ourselves.We often think that to face a mountain means to face lifes hardships,but the truth is that it is almost always because of the years we have spent accumulating tiny traumas,adaptations,and cop

23、ing mechanisms,all of which have compounded over time.8 BRIANNA WIESTYour mountain is the block between you and the life you want to live.Facing it is also the only path to your freedom and becoming.You are here because a trigger showed you to your wound,and your wound will show you to your path,and

24、 your path will show you to your destiny.When you arrive at this breaking pointthe foot of the mountain,the heat of the fire,the night that finally wakes youyou are at the crux of the breakdown,and if you are willing to do the work,you will find that it is the entry-way to the breakthrough you have

25、spent your entire life waiting for.Your old self can no longer sustain the life you are trying to lead;it is time for reinvention and rebirth.You must release your old self into the fire of your vision and be willing to think in a way you have never even tried before.You must mourn the loss of your

26、younger self,the person who has gotten you this far but who is no longer equipped to carry you onward.You must envision and become one with your future self,the hero of your life that is going to lead you from here.The task in front of you is silent,simple,and monumental.It is a feat most do not eve

27、r get to the point of attempting.You must now learn agility,resilience,and self-understanding.You must change completely,never to be the same again.9THE MOUNTAIN IS YOUThe mountain that stands in front of you is the calling of your life,your purpose for being here,and your path finally made clear.On

28、e day,this mountain will be behind you,but who you become in the process of getting over it will stay with you always.In the end,it is not the mountain that you must master,but yourself.11THE MOUNTAIN IS YOUCHAPTER 1THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU THERE IS NOTHING HOLDING you back in life more than yourself.If

29、there is an ongoing gap between where you are and where you want to beand your efforts to close it are consistently met with your own resistance,pain,and dis-comfortself-sabotage is almost always at work.On the surface,self-sabotage seems masochistic.It ap-pears to be a product of self-hatred,low co

30、nfidence,or a lack of willpower.In reality,self-sabotage is simply the presence of an unconscious need that is being fulfilled by the self-sabotaging behavior.To overcome this,we must go through a process of deep psychological excavation.We must pinpoint the traumatic event,release unprocessed emoti

31、ons,find healthier ways to meet our needs,reinvent our self-image,and develop principles such as emotional intelligence and resilience.It is no small task,and yet it is the work that all of us must do at one point or another.12 BRIANNA WIESTSELF-SABOTAGE IS NOT ALWAYS OBVIOUS AT THE ONSETWhen Carl J

32、ung was a child,he fell on the ground in school and hit his head.When he got hurt,he thought to himself:“Yes,maybe I wont have to go back to school now.”3Though he is known today for his insightful body of work,he actually didnt like school or fit in well with his peers.Shortly after his accident,Ju

33、ng began experiencing spo-radic and uncontrollable fainting spells.He unconsciously developed what he would call a“neurosis”and ultimately came to realize that all neuroses are“substitutes for le-gitimate suffering.”In Jungs case,he made an unconscious association be-tween fainting and getting out o

34、f school.He came to be-lieve that the fainting spells were a manifestation of his unconscious desire to get out of class,where he felt uncom-fortable and unhappy.Likewise,for many people,their fears and attachments are very often just symptoms of deeper issues for which they do not have any better w

35、ay to cope.SELF-SABOTAGE IS A COPING MECHANISMSelf-sabotage is what happens when we refuse to con-sciously meet our innermost needs,often because we do not believe we are capable of handling them.13THE MOUNTAIN IS YOUSometimes,we sabotage our relationships because what we really want is to find ours

36、elves,though we are afraid to be alone.Sometimes,we sabotage our professional suc-cess because what we really want is to create art,even if it will make us seem less ambitious by societys measures.Sometimes,we sabotage our healing journey by psycho-analyzing our feelings,because doing so ensures we

37、avoid actually experiencing them.Sometimes,we sabotage our self-talk because if we believed in ourselves,wed feel free to get back out in the world and take risks,and that would leave us vulnerable.In the end,self-sabotage is very often just a maladaptive coping mechanism,a way we give ourselves wha

38、t we need without having to actually address what that need is.But like any coping mechanism,it is just that a way to cope.Its not an answer,its not a solution,and it does not ever truly solve the problem.We are merely numbing our de-sires,and giving ourselves a little taste of temporary relief.SELF

39、-SABOTAGE COMES FROM IRRATIONAL FEARSometimes,our most sabotaging behaviors are really the result of long-held and unexamined fears we have about the world and ourselves.Perhaps it is the idea that you are unintelligent,unat-tractive,or disliked.Perhaps it is the idea of losing a job,14 BRIANNA WIES

40、Ttaking an elevator,or committing to a relationship.In other cases,it can be more abstract,such as the concept of someone“coming to get”you,violating your boundaries,getting“caught,”or being wrongly accused.These beliefs become attachments over time.For most people,the abstract fear is really a repr

41、esenta-tion of a legitimate fear.Because it would be too scary to actually dwell on the real fear,we project those feelings onto issues or circumstances that are less likely to occur.If the situation has an extremely low likelihood of becoming reality,it therefore becomes a“safe”thing to worry about

42、,because subconsciously,we already know it isnt going to happen.Therefore,we have an avenue to express our feel-ings without actually endangering ourselves.For example,if you are someone who is deeply afraid of being a passenger in a car,maybe your real fear is the loss of control or the idea that s

43、omeone or something else is controlling your life.Perhaps the fear is of“moving for-ward,”and the moving car is simply a representation of that.If you were aware of the real issue,you could begin work-ing to resolve it,perhaps by identifying the ways you are giving up your power or being too passive

44、.However,if you arent aware of the real problem,youll continue to spend your time trying to convince yourself to not be triggered and anxious while riding in the car and find that it only gets worse.15THE MOUNTAIN IS YOUIf you try to fix the problem on the surface,you will al-ways come up against a

45、wall.This is because youre trying to rip off a Band-Aid before you have a strategy to heal the wound.SELF-SABOTAGE COMES FROM UNCONSCIOUS,NEGATIVE ASSOCIATIONSSelf-sabotage is also one of the first signs that your inner narrative is outdated,limiting,or simply incorrect.Your life is defined not only

46、 by what you think about it,but also what you think of yourself.Your self-concept is an idea that you have spent your whole life building.It was created by piecing together inputs and influences from those around you:what your parents believed,what your peers thought,what became self-evident through

47、 personal experience,and so on.Your self-image is difficult to adjust,because your brains confirmation bias works to affirm your preexisting beliefs about yourself.When we self-sabotage,it is often because we have a neg-ative association between achieving the goal we aspire to and being the kind of

48、person who has or does that thing.If your issue is that you want to be financially stable,and yet you keep ruining every effort you make to get there,you have to go back to your first concept of money.How 16 BRIANNA WIESTdid your parents manage their finances?More important-ly,what did they tell you

49、 about people who had it and people who didnt?Many people who struggle financially will justify their place in life by disavowing money as a whole.They will say that all rich people are terrible.If you grew up with people who told you your entire life that people who have money are this way,guess wh

50、at youre going to resist having?Your anxiety around the issue that youre self-sabotaging is usually a reflection of your limiting belief.Maybe you associate being healthy with being vulnerable,because you had a parent who was perfectly healthy when they suddenly fell ill.Maybe you arent writing your