李开复写给女儿的信LettertoDaughter文学艺术声乐器乐_文学艺术-声乐器乐.pdf

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1、Letter to Daughter Oct.9,2009 Dear Daughter,As we drove off from Columbia,I decided to write you a letter to tell you all that is on my mind.First,I want to tell you how proud we are.Admission to Columbia is a real testament to your academic,artistic and social abilities.Whether it was getting the h

2、ighest grade in Calculus,completing your elegant fashion design,successfully selling your painted running shoes,or becoming one of the top orators in the Model United Nations,you have become a talented and accomplished young woman.You should be as proud of yourself as we are.I will always remember t

3、he first time I held you in my arms.I felt a tingling sensation in my heart tha t must have been our“father-daughter connection”which will bind us for life.I remember singing you a lullaby while I rocked you to sleep.You have been a wonderful daughter ever since you were born,always quiet,empathetic

4、,attentive,and well-mannered.I remember my daughter of three following us around every weekend to get building supplies.You put up with that boring period without a fuss,happily eating hamburgers in the car and singing with Barney until you fell asleep.You even went to Sunday Chinese school and stud

5、ied hard even though it was no fun for you.I cannot believe how lucky we are as parents to have a daughter like you.You have been an excellent elder sister.Sometimes the two of you argued,but in the last few years you have become best friends.Your sister adores you and looks up to you as her role mo

6、del.As you saw when we departed,she will miss you so much.There is nothing like family,and other than your parents,your sister is the one person who you can always confide in.There is nothing we wish more than that your sisterhood will continue to bond as you grow older,and that you will care for ea

7、ch other throughout your lives.While you are at college,do have a short video chat with her or email her every few days.College will be the most important years in your life.You often question“what good is this course”.While you should remain inquisitive,always remember that“education is what you ha

8、ve left after all that is taught is forgotten”.In college you will move from being teacher-taught to master-inspired,after which you must become a self-directed learner.Please take each subject seriously,for even if what you learn isnt critical for your life,the skills of learning will be something

9、you cherish forever.Do not fall into the trap of dogma.There is no single simple answer to any question.Remember your high school debate class,when I told you to argue the side that you did nt believe in I did that to show you things are rar ely“black and white”,and a problem can always be looked at

10、 from different perspectives.This is“critical thinking”,and it is the most important skill you need in life.You must also become tolerant and supportive of others.I remember when I proposed a new dissertation topic to my.advisor.He said“I dont fully agree with you,but Ill support you.”I have come to

11、 learn this isnt just flexibility but is supportive of critical thinking.This is an empowering style of leadership that I try to follow.I hope you will too.Follow your passion in college and take courses you will enjoy.Steve Jobs said when you are in college,your passion will create many dots,and la

12、ter in your life you will connect them.In his great commencement speech at Stanford,Jobs spoke of his calligraphy class,and how a decade later it became the basis for the beautiful Macintosh fonts,which later ignited desktop publishing and brought fabulous tools like Microsoft Word to our lives.His

13、expedition into calligraphy was a dot,and the Macintosh became the connecting line.Do not worry excessively what career you will have,and dont be too utilitarian.If you like Japanese,go for it,even if your dad thinks“it s not useful.”Enjoy picking your dots,and be assured one day you will find your

14、calling,and connect a gorgeous curve through the dots.Exert yourself in classe s,but dont let pressure upset you.Your mother and I have no expectations for your grades.If you graduate and educate yourself in your four years,we will feel happy.Your Columbia degree will take you far,even if you dont g

15、raduate with honors.The only thing that matters is that you have learned and the only metric you should use is that you have tried.Grades are just silly letters that vain people brag about,and lazy people dread.You are too good to be either.Most importantly,make friends and be happy.College friends

16、will be the best in your life because they are not only physically closer than your family but the bonds will be strong as you gain independence and enter adulthood together.Choose friends who are genuine and sincere to you.Dont worry about their hobbies or even their personalities.Be self-assured,o

17、utgoing and proactive.Keep your high school friends and stay connected to them,but do not use them as substitutes for college friendship.You have chosen wonderful friends from high school,so trust your instincts.Give people the benefit of the doubt;dont stereotype and always forgive.People are imper

18、fect,so as long as they are genuine and sincere,trust them and be good to them.This is my secret of success I am genuine with people and trust them(unless they do something to lose my trust).Sometimes I am taken advantage of by dishonest people but that loss is nothing compared to what I have gained

19、 from being open.Whether it is for management,work,or friendship,this is something you should ponder.Whatever decisions that confront you,you must take control of your life.I used to help you,whether it was in extracurricular activities or your college application.I will always be there for you,but

20、the time has come for you to be in the drivers seat.I remember the exhilarating feeling when I took real control of my life by deciding to leave academia for Apple,and then go to China and work for Google.Later I decided to start my own business.Being able to decide means you get to live the life yo

21、u want to.I told your mom Im writing this letter,and asked what she wanted me to say.She thought and said:“just ask her to take care of herself.”Simple but deeply caring that is how your mother is.In this short sentence is her hope that you will become independent in the way you look after yourself

22、whether it be getting sufficient sleep,following a balanced diet,taking some exercise,or seeing a doctor whenever you are ill.An ancient Chinese proverb goes that the best way to be nice to your parents is to take care of yourself.This is because your parents love you so much,and that if you are wel

23、l,they will have comfort.You will understand this one day when you become a mother.But in the meantime,please listen to your mother and take care of yourself.College is the four years where you have:the greatest amount of free time the first chance to be independent the most flexibility to change th

24、e lowest risk for making mistakes So please treasure your college years make the best of your free time,become an independent thinker in control of your destiny,evolve yourself into a bi-cultural talent and be bold to experiment,learn and grow through your successes and challenges.When I faced the g

25、reatest challenge and opportunity in my life in 2005,you gave me a big hug and said“bonne chance”,which means“good luck”and“good courage”.Now I do the same for you.Bonne chance,my angel and princess.May Columbia become the happiest four years in your life,and may you blossom into just what you dream to be.Love,Dad(&Mom)