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1、2024年英语美文欣赏：朋友,想说分手不容易 摘要:现年52岁的拉哲特曼是新泽西州拉姆齐的一名护士。她说，假如是我做错了什么事，我希望有机会致歉，或者和她好好谈谈。相反，我却是在读了三本自助书，花了两年的时间后才让自己接受了这个事实我以为是好挚友的人和我绝交了。 Linda Lajterman suffered one of the worst experiences of her life while on a cruise with herhusband and two other couples. Halfway through the trip, one of her friends

2、stopped talking toher - for good. Ms. Lajterman says she has no idea what prompted the woman, who was one of her bestfriends, to cut her off. They helped take care of each other's kids, celebrated family eventstogether and shared confidences. After the cruise, which took place a few years ago, s

3、he calledher friend and asked for an explanation, but received none. She says she was devastated. 琳达拉哲特曼(Linda Lajterman)在与丈夫和另外两对夫妇乘船巡游的时候遭受了她这辈子最不开心的经验。半路上，她的一个挚友不理她了，而且恒久不理她了。 拉哲特曼说，她不知道是什么事让最好的挚友和她绝交了。她们曾帮对方照看小孩，一起举办家庭庆祝活动，共享隐私。在旅行过后，她打电话给那个挚友，请她作出说明，不过对方什么也没说。这已经是几年前的事了。拉哲特曼说，她因此感到很难过。 I would

4、have welcomed the opportunity to apologize or discuss it if I did anything wrong,'says Ms. Lajterman, a 52-year-old nurse from Ramsey, N.J. 'Instead, it took me three self-helpbooks and two years to make peace with the fact that someone I thought was a good friendended our friendship.' 现

5、年52岁的拉哲特曼是新泽西州拉姆齐的一名护士。她说，假如是我做错了什么事，我希望有机会致歉，或者和她好好谈谈。相反，我却是在读了三本自助书，花了两年的时间后才让自己接受了这个事实我以为是好挚友的人和我绝交了。 There are 50 ways to leave your lover, according to Paul Simon. But how many ways are thereto leave a friend? 正如保罗西蒙(Paul Simon)在歌中唱到的，离开情人的方法有50种。不过，离开挚友的方法有多少种呢? I know, it's a terrible que

6、stion. But think about it: Some of the worst breakups in our lives arenot with romantic partners. They are with friends - the people with whom we often share ourdeepest thoughts. Friends provide guidance, encouragement, laughter and a refuge. Losinga good friend can be one of the saddest experiences

7、 in life. 我知道，这个问题很可怕。不过好好想想：我们人生中最糟糕的分手经验有些并不是和情人之间。有些是和挚友那些我们常常共享自己内心深处想法的人。挚友能够给你指引、激励、欢乐和避风港。失去一个好挚友有可能是一辈子最让人难受的经验之一。 And yet, many friendships just don't last. Some simply fizzle out, victims of routine life eventssuch as moves, job changes, divorce or a divergence of interests. 不过，许多友情就是无

8、法长久。有些是无疾而终，成为搬家、工作变动、离婚和爱好不同等一般人生过程的牺牲品。 Others end badly. Rob Wilson, 53, a writer in Atlanta, saw a 12-year friendship abruptly endafter he mentioned he was voting for George W. Bush in the 2024 presidential election. ArthurNewton, 46, a hotel manager from Austin, Texas, had a female friend tell

9、him she couldn't hangout with him anymore because her husband was jealous. 有些则是不欢而散。53岁的罗伯威尔逊(Rob Wilson)是亚特兰大的一位作家。在2024年的总统大选中，他向挚友提到自己投了布什(George W. Bush)的票，之后两人之间12年的友情就戛然而止了。得克萨斯州奥斯汀46岁的酒店经理亚瑟牛顿(Arthur Newton)的一个女性挚友告知他，因为她丈夫嫉妒，所以她无法接着和他做挚友了。 Michael Hassard watched a good friend run away f

10、rom him - literally. He had heard his pal hadbegun dating his ex-girlfriend, so Mr. Hassard, 39, a NASA engineer from Muscle Shoals, Ala.,approached him in church one day to ask about it. But before he could speak, his friend turnedand fled down a hallway, out the door and into his car. He and his f

11、ormer buddy never spokeagain. 迈克尔哈萨德(Michael Hassard)眼睁睁地看着他的一个好挚友从他身边跑掉了。哈萨德39岁，是驻阿拉巴马州的一名美国国家航空及太空总署(NASA)工程师。他听说挚友起先与自己的前女友约会，所以有一天他在教堂见到他时，想上前问个原委。可是还没等他开口，挚友就转身沿着走廊跑掉了，跑到门外之后进了自己的车。两人从今再没说过话。 Friendships are such a nuanced and intriguing relationship that we even follow celebrity friendbreakups

12、, as we do their romances. Why else would we care about Mariana Pasternak but forher tell-all book about her former friendship with Martha Stewart, which ended after Ms.Pasternak testified at Ms. Stewart's 2024 trial. 友情是一种微妙而动人的关系，我们甚至会像关注名人情侣分手一样关注名人挚友分手。假如不是玛丽安娜巴斯特纳克(Mariana Pasternak)那本有关她和家

13、政女皇玛莎斯图尔特(Martha Stewart)从前友情的全揭秘书，我们又怎么会关注她呢?2024年斯图尔特受审时，巴斯特纳克曾出庭作证，之后两人的友情就结束了。 'It's a myth that friendships last forever,' says Irene S. Levine, a psychologist, professor ofpsychiatry at New York University's medical school and author of 'Best Friends Forever:Surviving a Bre

14、akup with Your Best Friend.' We are tied to our family by blood and our spousesby law, so we are often more attentive to those relationships. 'Friendships are relationships ofchoice, so we tend to overlook them,' she says. 纽约高校医学院精神病学教授、心理学家艾琳莱文(Irene S. Levine)说，友情地久天长的说法纯粹是天方夜谭。她曾著有恒久都

15、是好挚友(Best Friends Forever: Surviving a Breakup with Your Best Friend)一书。她说，我们与家人之间靠血缘关系维系，和配偶之间靠法律关系维系，所以我们对家人和配偶更专心;友情则是你选择的，所以我们往往会忽视。 As a result, many friendships die from neglect, Dr. Levine says. And this in itself poses a verysticky problem in friendship breakups: How do you know if you'r

16、e being neglected - ordumped? What if your friend is always too busy to get together but always seems to have agood excuse? What if she never calls you, but seems happy enough to hear from you when youcall? 莱文说，结果就造成许多友情因为忽视而告终。这本身就给挚友之间的分手带来了一个特别麻烦的问题：你如何知道自己被忽视了，或被抛弃了?假如你的挚友总是看起来忙得无法和你见面，又总是看起来有很好

17、的理由怎么办?假如她从来不给你打电话，但在你打给她的时候看起来很兴奋呢? And there's the rub. There are no rules or even societal norms for friendship breakups. Friendswho want to split don't go to counseling or get a mediator or a lawyer, as divorcing couplesdo. And there typically aren't a bunch of nosy relatives willing

18、 to intervene and relaymessages, as there are when a split is within a family. 问题是，对于挚友之间的分手，并没有什么规则可言，甚至没有社交惯例可循。要分手的挚友不会像离婚的夫妻一样去找顾问询问，或是找个调解人或律师。与夫妻分手不同的时，挚友分手通常也没有一大群叽叽喳喳的亲戚想要干预或在中间传话。 Also, dissolving a friendship is harder than ever these days, with so many digital ties holding ustogether, fro

19、m social-networking Web sites like Facebook to stored numbers in cellphones. 此外，与挚友分手如今变得比以往更难了，因为有那么多的数字纽带将我们连在一起，从Facebook等社交网站到手机上存储的电话号码。 Dave Nadkarni can tell you all about it. When he decided to end a relationship a few years agowith a close female friend he felt was spreading rumors about hi

20、m, he stopped returning hercalls, defriended her on Facebook, blocked her on his instant-message list, stopped followingher on Twitter and changed her name in his cellphone to 'Do Not Pick Up.' 'It was cathartic,' hesays. 大卫纳德卡尼(Dave Nadkarni)对此深有感受。几年前他确定和一位他觉得说自己坏话的红颜知己绝交的时候，他不回她的电

21、话，在Facebook不再把她列为好友，在即时消息名单上把她屏蔽掉，不再关注她的推文，把手机中她的名字改成了不要接听。他说，这真像是来了一场大扫除。 But it didn't work. His friend got the hint and stopped calling him, and he has successfullyavoided seeing her in real life. But he still runs into her constantly online, every time a mutualfriend retweets her Twitter pos

22、ts or she leaves a comment on a mutual Facebook friend'sstatus update. 不过却没有用。他的那个女性挚友明白了他的示意，不再给他打电话，现实生活中他也胜利地得以避开再见到她。不过他仍会常常在网上遇到她，比如每次他们共同的挚友把她的推文转给他，或是她在共同的Facebook挚友的状态更新中留言的时候。 'It sucks,' says Mr. Nadkarni, 29, a sales rep for a security company in Las Vegas. 'It's like thedog that's stuck on your leg that you can't shake off.' 现年29岁的纳德卡尼是拉斯维加斯一家安保公司的销售代表。他说，太糟糕了，就像是一只咬着你腿不放、你怎么都摆脱不掉的狗。 So how do you finish off a friendship? Are some ways better than others? 你是如何结束一场友情的?有没有什么好的分手方法?